Episode 19: Forgiveness Pt2

Forgiveness is something we talk a lot about for a reason. It has powerful and wide ranging impacts on many areas of life.

Each moment is what it is. Personal stories create judgment, clouding our perspective and separating us from what is real, and that is insane. True forgiveness is forgiving ourselves for believing there was anything to forgive in the first place. Attachment to telling stories is the defining global thought-epidemic of our era.

We have a choice in when and how to forgive people and situations, yet many people throughout the world still suffer because they are unwilling to lay down their arms, stop telling stories and forgive.

Forgiving ourselves and others is liberating. It opens up potential for pro-active growth, moving forward with a clear perspective.

Forgiveness can be many things: challenging, liberating, fast, slow or life changing. Your stories of forgiveness can inspire others to reap its benefits. Share your experience through the website comments, Facebook and Twitter.


Some more handy tools for forgiveness:


M-2-M – How Vibration Rolls – 2013/11/15

I was recently asked to expand on a comment I made about offensive jokes being a “vibrational thing”. Todays blog is taken from those comments.
In short, you can feel it in your body when something is loving and when it’s not, and we create more of what we feel.
My current “moment to moment” practice is feeling for integrity and nurturing emotions that resonate with that.


Yeah, people do their best with what they have.
It’s all about awareness. Many people don’t realise that emotions and sensations are a way we perceive vibration and energy (aka vibe). Through the body, we can tell if something feels like loving integrity or discomfort. Pain can be a beautiful teacher but it’s painful. 😉
Many people aren’t aware of their vibe or it’s impact. If we choose to speak, act and feel with a vibe of separation, lack and fear we create more of that. If we choose to cultivate love, gratitude and unity it has a ripple effect of creation too. Saying that, open hearted Laughter is up there with Tears and Gratitude for manifestation power… It feels great. With awareness we can make clear choices and a still mind helps to feel the richness of each moment.

We create what we feel and in my experience the more loving, strong and sustained the emotion, the more profound the effects are.
With this in mind, I prefer to be for something and against nothing. What is, is and this mind doesn’t have the perspective to understand the teachers in things that some people judge as good or bad. I accept and love every moment as it is, and choose to focus on heartfelt service of happiness for all.

Loving discernment feels good in my body. A loving “no” is delightfully beautiful. I’ve found loving communication with compassionate and proactive action towards shared happiness to be very effective. The whole vibration based manifestation thing again. 🙂
It’s only when we run mental stories of judgement or attachment and lose inner peace that our vibe causes the old “What we resist persists” to come into play. I would rewrite that saying to “What we feel persists”.

I feel compassion for your friend. Do you think they’d be interested in doing an awareness experiment to feel the vibration that different jokes carry? 😀


M-2-M – 2013/Oct/31

This is a journal of the moment to moment practice of a modern day Shaman.
These tools help me embrace what is and express myself with integrity being for something and against nothing.

The Situation:
This is the morning of the first “official” 13 Weeks to Awakening book signing. I feel tired and pretty sick. My nose is running like a tap, my lungs are itchy, hot and cold flushes are coming through in waves and the temptation to hide is strong.

Before opening my eyes, I’m already running mental stories about what caused this. I felt it coming yesterday and didn’t take extra care to nurture the body. Could it have been caused by walking in the cold wind, allergies or sleeping topless? The truth is that I don’t know. The only thing that matters is what I can do now! My mind is filled with a spattering of stories: some resenting the sickness, others highlighting the importance of this day and all the plans around it. In these first waking minutes, I see this internal turmoil for what it is and ask:

  • What am I feeling now?
  • What is the gap between the input from the environment and what I’ve created with these stories?
  • Are these stories based on fact?
  • Are these stories serving me?
  • Can I fully feel and accept what is happening now?
  • With honesty, presence and an open heart, can I do my best with the gifts I’ve been given?

I really don’t know how feeling sick will affect my day.
I do know that it will all turn out exactly as it turns out.

The Practice:
The symptoms are easing as I stay in bed and sit with my experience for a few minutes. I feel clearer after lighting some sage for a heavy morning smudge.

Clarity, perspective and flow has become the moment to moment practice of the day. A walking meditation of intense presence and surrender to the unknown, trusting it is all more perfect than this mind could understand. I’m naturally slowing down, breathing deeper and feeling for integrity. It’s clear that my decisions are simple and don’t need to be made now. If I needed nasal spray I will use it. If it feels too contagious I’ll cancel, and if I go ahead with the signing I’ll serve with all I have. I feel, love what is, have a choice and trust that it’s all perfect.

The urges are strong today, I want to honour them and feel them fully while asking these questions with absolute honesty:

  • Is this in alignment with integrity?
  • Is this nurturing the body’s health?

Warm stodgy food feels like too much work for the stomach. While tempting, sugar and sex both feel like weakening the immune system. I felt that a cigarette would have a clearing effect, but at too great a cost. All of these urges feel like hiding, contracting and seeking safety through self sabotage or running away. I also feel drawn to light vegetable meals, ginger, outdoor walks, meditation and sleep. These feel in strong alignment with the body’s health. Going ahead with these validates the feeling of integrity. I feel invigorated after a one hour power nap and a few hours split between sitting and walking meditation.

The Dance:
As I start walking to the bookstore, my breath is deep, I feel strong and vibrant. I’m very aware of my senses, and my smile is wide with enthusiasm to share. I’m floating in the rich symphony of sensation that is present moment awareness.

It’s a casual get together, a perfect blend of meditation, information on 13 Weeks and discussion of our own experience. I am beaming and full of energy after a beautiful signing with an amazing group. In search for dinner, James and I stumble across some good friends and spend the rest of the night sharing stories, laughing and then signing some more books.

I’m eternally grateful for this moment to moment practice of integrity awareness meditation: Perspective and willingness to love each moment for exactly what it is.

Feel – Love – Choose – Trust  ~ shmn